Am I funny or just rude

Am I Funny or Just Rude?

Different families prize different traits. Some families value intelligence, others praise adherence to the familial faith. My family prized being off-kilter. If you were too much like other people we had very little use for you. We weren’t total lunatics, we paid our taxes and my dad spent a lot of time yelling at a tree in our front yard that refused to grow. Turns out it was a foothill pine. I know that your dad yelling at trees doesn’t seem normal, but in the 80’s dads were much weirder than they are now. Also, he smoked and had a tattoo of a skull and crossbones on his forearm and looked alarmingly like Hunter S. Thompson. Although there were a variety of reasons I wasn’t popular with the boys in high school, my scary dad didn’t help matters. Read more

Felicia vs the instant pot

Felicia vs. the Instant Pot

Aileen is in the middle of a move this week, so I’m taking over the recipe challenge.  I may have already mentioned that I am an unenthusiastic cook. If all of the stars align and I have fresh ingredients on hand, plenty of time, a yummy, not too difficult recipe in mind to prepare, a delicious glass of wine to sip and my family is home, hungry and interested in eating the food that I am cooking then I enjoy cooking.  Suffice it to say that those particular stars have aligned about once in the last five or so years.

All of that said, I’m still responsible for most of the meals, for my family.  And because I am always desperately searching for a way to make my food responsibilities less cumbersome, I finally gave into the Instant Pot.   Read more

Fueling the fire

Fueling the Fire

I’ve had a tough time writing today’s blog.  This week we’re talking about self care and the importance of refueling ourselves, so that we can continue to tend the fires of those we love.  Ironically, this week, my fuel tank is incredibly low. There has been a lot happening in my world over the last few weeks and I haven’t been great about keeping myself grounded.  My tank ran dry and I’ll tell you, it was not pretty.

Sometimes having your tank run dry is unavoidable.  Modern life is busy and stressful and beating myself up for not keeping myself calm seems counterproductive.  But now that I’m on the other side of this particular episode, I’ll reflect on what self care strategies work best for me. Read more

Very Bad Words Listen Up

Very Bad Words

Very Bad Words. Hmmm…a podcast all about swearing? Sign me the f#ck up! Not safe for listening with anyone who is easily offended. Or parrots, since they repeat everything.

Episode 29 – Swearing is Good Medicine, grapples with the question of whether or not swearing can actually be good for us.  Given that we are accomplished swearers and are always looking for ways to improve our health, we had to give it a listen.  The result – for some people swearing can be healthy and can actually have pain blocking qualities.  We knew we were onto something.

Listen up yourselves and let us know what you think.

Felicia and Aileen

Middle Aged Photo Shoot

When Aileen and I decided to start a business, we realized that we were going to have to chose profile pics that didn’t have our kids in them, or weren’t random shots of our kid’s toys in funny, or inappropriate situations.  Damn. Not a single picture, for either one of us that was more recent than 1998. We did have lots of pictures of us looking at one another and laughing our asses off, but also not appropriate. Read more

We Should All Be Feminists Reading Challenge

We Should All Be Feminists

Here I am again, with someone I greatly admire yet feel unequal to encapsulating in words. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie speaks not only for herself but for all of us. We Should All Be Feminists is short, to the point and worth reading more than once. Adichie talks about feminism but also about what it means to be uniquely herself and a feminist. Read more

Candy Crush and other mind numbing games

Candy Crush and Other Mind Numbing Games

The beginning of 2017 was a tough time for me.  Aside from the stress, fear and anxiety associated with the election and inauguration of Donald Trump, I had some serious things happening in my personal life that caused my carefully managed anxiety disorder to flare up in a big way.  As I sought to regain some calm and control in my life, I realized that social media was a massive anxiety trigger, particularly given the political climate. In an effort at self preservation, I deleted all of the social media apps from my phone for much of the first half of 2017.   Read more

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

I tried writing 3 different versions of this talent crush but there are just people who speak better for themselves. Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is one of those people. Author and thinker, Adichie gave a TED talk in 2012 that has been viewed over 1.6 million times on YouTube. The talk was turned into a book, We Should All Be Feminists, which is our reading challenge for the week.

Adichie speaks with humorous precision about feminism, a topic many of us flounder our way through. Read more

Lucky Thai recipe challenge

Lucky Thai

Once again, the week has been a disaster so we are pivoting to something that has to do with food but does not involve me in a kitchen. I am moving. My kitchen is just boxes and good intentions.

So this week we are highlighting our favorite restaurant in Ventura, Lucky Thai. We walk there from our office every time we work. The food is good, the wine glasses are chilled and the booths are very comfortable. I am writing this with a tummy full of Thai food and waaaaay too much chilled white wine.

Let us know where you go to eat and relax with the ones you love. Read more

Delicious dish

The Care and Feeding of Humans: Part 2

When my younger son was ready for solid foods, I roasted root vegetables, cooled them on a wire rack then whirred them up in a food processor. Then I put the goop in ice cube trays, froze them, then popped out the cubes and kept them in the freezer until needed. When needed I carefully thawed them and fed them to the little toothless wonder I had done all this work for.

He ate whatever I gave him. He particularly enjoyed a gross combo of avocados and applesauce that my older son was reasonably horrified about.

“Did you feed me that crap?” he asked, watching in disgusted fascination as his younger brother gleefully ate green applesauce with chunks of apple and avocado in it. Read more