I’m supposed to be writing about carving out time to be businessy because I spend a lot of time complaining about it to Aileen, or really anyone who will listen to me. I’ve been a stay at home mom for the last 17 years. I consider it my job and I’m really good at it. I have lots of experience and according to most metrics, I’m successful. I also love the work that I do, but I often describe it as having terrific benefits, with lousy pay and long hours.
After 17 years, it’s time to do something new and I’m excited about the business that Aileen and I are building. So excited in fact, that I want to spend a majority of my time on it. Unfortunately, I haven’t off loaded any of the responsibilities of my other job. My family is lovely and supportive, but they’re also used to me being pretty attentive. “Mom, I’m so happy and proud of what you’re doing with Persistiny! Also, can you please bring me a toasted bagel and apples sliced the way I like? I would do it myself, but I’ve got Chemistry homework and dance class in an hour and I’m SO tired and hungry and I love you and also, I forgot that the payment for my class trip was due today and can you take it to the school and my friend needs a ride home after dance and what’s for dinner and did I mention that I love you?” X 3. And the driving. So. Much. Driving.
It’s tempting to forgo some of the time that I have staked out for self care like exercise or time with friends, but without that recharge time, I’m depleted way too quickly to be much use to anyone. I’m working on being more creative with my time and also patient with myself. I tend to want to accomplish everything on my list, all at the same time and get quickly frustrated if I don’t. It’s all about finding balance and THAT is a life skill that I am still learning.
Everyday, I read stories of women following their passions and making things happen and I find these stories so incredibly inspirational. What are your secrets for making a big life transition? How do you handle the demands of mothering, with careers and other pursuits? We’d love to hear your stories.