Tending the Home Fires

This is where we talk about what it means to care for our homes and ourselves and any other humans (and/or animals) lucky enough to share those spaces with us.

Girl, Clear Your Browsing Data

It just occurred to me a few minutes ago that I should really clear my browsing data.

Why, you might ask? Well, thanks for asking! Read more

Time is No Longer of the Essence

When someone you love dies you realize that time is no longer of the essence. It returns to what it was when you were a kid, elastic and often oppressive. It goes too fast or too slow. No one seems in charge of it and so you are swept along in the wake, starting and stopping on a schedule you don’t understand and no one can explain. Read more

Time Flies Tending the Home Fires

Time Flies When You Have No Idea What You’re Doing

This week marks the first anniversary of Felicia and I writing these little notes and sending them out into the universe.

Going back over the past year of posts, I am very proud of what we have accomplished. Sure, the grammar gets a little dicey and I really need to shorten my sentences but on the whole, well done us! Read more

Faking It

Most seasoned parents face their kids’ medical emergencies with a calmness generally unavailable to new parents. My neighbors are new parents. A few weeks ago I met them coming back from the urgent care with their 2 year old son. They looked haggard. Read more

An Ode to Waze


Hello New Year! I am writing this on December 31st with Barbara WaWaWalters sitting on my lap. But wait, what if the New Year does not arrive? Have I jinxed it? Has my time as an insignificant speck of humanity on a speck of dust in a vast galaxy come to an end and I am now super powerful? Read more

Barbara WaWa is Here!

Older Son adopted a dog! See photo above. I am so excited I can’t stand myself. We moved a lot when I was a kid so we didn’t have a lot of your standard pets. My mom bought me a parakeet once but I was very afraid of it. We had fish but fun as they were to watch, petting and fetch were not an option. My mom was always feeding these crazy ginger stray cats that she named Morris, I think in total there were 5 of them over the years, but they were basically feral and liked only her. We finally got an indoor cat when I was in high school. His name was Stanley and if you petted him just right he would drool. And as an adult I had two cats, Muriel and Tony. More about them later. But a dog is a different pet all together.

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Ban Christmas Cards

It is a tradition in my family to move a fully decorated Christmas tree. Most every woman in my family has done it once (I think my aunt Wanda did it twice but that is because she has moved over 50 times.)

I’m sure if you spend a few minutes thinking about it, you too will come up with some similarly deranged holiday tradition your family engages in.

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Happy Holidays

Why have we made wishing each other joy during the darkest time of the year so difficult?

Happy Holidays is perfectly reasonable because 1) a lot of important holidays happen around wintertime and 2) if you don’t know the person very well, why would you want to take the chance of making them feel left out?

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Notes From the Home Office

I really like that title, Notes from the Home Office. Sounds very British and stern. It’s not. It’s from me so how stern could it be? This week I am talking about working from home.

I suck at working from home. I wash dishes, clothes, countertops and dirty tennis shoes. I tidy and vacuum. I organize the kitchen cupboards and clean out the fridge. What I don’t do is research and then write down my blog posts. I heard you rolling your eyes at the word research. There is some research behind all this. Felicia does a good amount of it and when we figure out how to borrow someone’s login, we’ll have access to JSTOR and then watch out. Read more

Keeping Track of it All

Keeping Track of it All

We hear it all the time from our friends and see it on social media. Women are frazzled and overwhelmed by everything they are expected to do. Whether you stay home full time with your children, or work outside of the home, we know your days and nights are filled with endless tasks. The work you do to care for your families is important and valuable, but often times that work gets overlooked. Read more