A good economy never excuses putting children in cages. I can’t believe there are people who would argue against that statement, but there are. And yet the RNC dares to call us unhinged, as if we are overreacting. On a side note, I appreciate Republicans’ help in naming ourselves, rather like Hillary helped a subset of Trump supporters name themselves deplorables. I wonder if there is now a subset of deplorable Trump supporters who have changed their minds and are now feeling unhinged. They could call themselves unhinged deplorables. The point is, if you aren’t feeling at least somewhat unhinged, you aren’t paying attention. Or your life is your own personal shitshow, which, if it is, I am sorry.  I know how you feel. Read more

Lets talk about caregiving

Let’s Talk About Caregiving

Caregiving, unpaid labor, the motherhood penalty, the gender wage gap.  These are terms that get thrown around in academic journals, economic studies and angry online posts, but what do they mean and how do they affect the lives of modern women? Let’s talk about caregiving by defining what it means.   Read more

Good and Mad Reading Challenge

Good and Mad

Sometimes the books I pre-order match what is happening in my life. Good and Mad by Rebecca Traister is one of those books. I think this is a book that will engender many different reviews and reactions. Read more

Unladylike Podcast Love

Unladylike Podcast

Oh my friends. You are going to like the Unladylike podcast, especially if you were a fan of Stuff Mom Never Told You. Unladylike podcast is motivated by the concerns and frustrations stemming from the results of the 2016 election. And the years of research and scholarship performed by Cristen & Caroline, first for their jobs as print journalists and then with the podcast Stuff Mom Never Told You, shine in this podcast. This isn’t two angry people randomly chatting about topics they read a few articles about online. That would be something I would do. No this is…well, let me go to their webpage so I get it right.  Read more

Why Am I So Angry?

I’m So Angry and it Feels Weird

Women’s rage is all the rage these days.  Everywhere I look there are articles about the fiery wrath of women as we go into the upcoming midterm elections.  Female politicians are being called out for their tenacity and strength and they are holding their ground in the face of name calling and disrespect.  For goodness sake, when are old, white men going to learn that it is not in their best interests to go after Elizabeth Warren?!? Read more

Women & Power

This week I read Mary Beard’s manifesto (her word) Women & Power. At a scant 107 pages, the book is short yet powerful. Beard is one of the world’s foremost classics scholars. This book attempts to trace the oppression of women in the Western culture, the silencing of their voices from The Odyssey to today. As Beard says, “When it comes to silencing women, Western culture has had thousands of years of practice.” Read more

Dr. Christine Blasey Ford

Much has been written in the last two weeks about the nation’s latest hero, Dr. Christine Blasey Ford.  Women across the globe watched as she did the bravest thing many of us can imagine.  She shared her terrible story with the world, not because she wanted to, but because she felt it was her duty. Read more

Mothering Teenage Daughters

I was a college freshman in October of 1991 when Anita Hill testified in front of the Senate Judiciary Committee about her allegations of sexual harassment against Supreme Court nominee Clarence Thomas. Never, in my wildest dreams, did I imagine that 27 years later as a mother of teenage daughters I would watch a similar horror unfold on the national stage.  

Based on my social media feeds, I know I was not alone in my rage and indignation at the treatment of Dr. Christine Blasey Ford. The glib dismissal of her credible allegations and the thinly veiled irritation by Republican Senators on the Senate Judiciary Committee that they would “have” to let Dr. Ford testify were maddening. Read more

Unpaid Labor

Unpaid Labor

It has occurred to me, possibly too late, that maybe we should have made our blog about simple ideas.  Like how much we like frozen yogurt. Or how bad my knees hurt when I wear high heeled shoes.

See what I did there?  Stalling.  I want to talk about unpaid labor.  It’s so important we started a business that puts unpaid labor as its central concern.  And here I am having a very hard time figuring out how to talk about it.

The unpaid labor I have performed throughout my life has been a source of enduring pride and joy.  It has also had a severely negative impact on my marriage and my self-esteem.  It has given me hours of laughter and shenanigans with my two sons.  It has given me hours of arguments with my spouse.  It has made me wonder if I have wasted the past 23 years of my life.  It has given and it has taken away. Read more

Close up of Malala Yousafzai

Malala Yousafzai

When the Taliban came for Malala Yousafzai, she was on a bus sitting next to two of her friends. The two girls were hit by bullets meant for Malala. They were not as severely injured, but their trauma was just as real as Malala’s. And that is Malala’s message. All young women are at risk of having the harm done to them that she had done to her. If a young woman dares to speak out against the edicts of powerful men, they risk their lives. Despite what many of our societies try to tell us, being young and female will not protect you.   Read more