Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

There are two types of people in this world. People who are fine with and sometimes even welcome movies where a great romance ends in the death of one or both partners. And then there are people who really hate that.

I am in the second group. And that is okay. Neither group is right or wrong. We are just different. Sometimes we have trouble agreeing on what movie to watch. I say if you are in that situation, watch The Great Race or Auntie Mame. Or just go bowling.

In this time of political upheaval, worldwide pandemics and possible toilet paper shortages, here is a list of Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead.

You’re welcome.

Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

Love & Basketball

The story of Quincy McCall (Omar Epps) and Monica Wright (Sanaa Lathan), two next-door neighbors pursuing their basketball careers before eventually falling for each other. Directorial debut of screenwriter Gina Prince-Bythewood. This is the movie you have been waiting for and wanting to watch. It’s funny and smart and everytime I watch it my heart…oh, my heart.


Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

It Happened One Night

This movie has it all. Clark Gable and Claudette Colbert directed by Frank Capra. It won all the major Oscars (even Best Picture) in 1934. It isn’t long or boring and the female character flouts her father’s authority and she doesn’t end up dead or a nun! It’s also a charming road picture between equals, a mouthy man who thinks he knows it all and a woman who refuses to live the way her father and the world at large expect her to. A favorite of movie snobs and grandmas alike. As Roger Ebert put it, “‘It Happened One Night’ is one of the easiest movies to love and one of the hardest to think of as a work of art.” Read his wonderful review here.


Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

Say Anything

This was the movie that won my heart when I was in high school. Lloyd Dobler from “Say Anything” wears a long tan trench coat while holding up the boombox playing “In Your Eyes” by Peter Gabriel. It’s in iconic scene and even if you haven’t seen the movie, you’ve seen that part or some version of it. This is a movie about love and truth and lies. Roger Ebert loved this movie as well, he rated it 5 stars.


Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

His Girl Friday

I love this movie because I love Rosalind Russell. And Cary Grant is just so very Cary Grant in this one. “A scintillating battle of the sexes. Rosalind Russell plays Hildy, about to leave journalism for marriage to cloddish Bruce Baldwin (Ralph Bellamy). Cary Grant plays Walter Burns, Hildy’s editor and ex-husband, who pretends happiness about her impending marriage as a ploy to win her back. The ace up Walter’s sleeve is a late-breaking news story concerning the impending execution of anarchist Earl Williams (John Qualen), a blatant example of political chicanery that Hildy can’t pass up. The story gets hotter when Williams escapes and is hidden from the cops by Hildy and Walter–right in the prison pressroom.”


Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

10 Things I Hate About You

I am so old I saw this movie in a theatre. It’s a loose retelling of The Taming of the Shrew. The performances are top-notch, Heath Ledger’s smile makes me both swoon and tear up and Julia Stiles remains a criminally underused talent. The paintball scene is boring, use it to go pee or get a snack.


Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

Crazy Rich Asians

The beginning is a bit slow but once they get going, it is on! Awkwafina’s performance makes me happy to be alive. Her father is a crack-up as well. A synopsis from the Warner Bros. webpage, in case you missed this juggernaut the first time around. “Crazy Rich Asians” follows native New Yorker Rachel Chu (Constance Wu) as she accompanies her longtime boyfriend, Nick Young (Henry Golding), to his best friend’s wedding in Singapore. Excited about visiting Asia for the first time but nervous about meeting Nick’s family, Rachel is unprepared to learn that Nick has neglected to mention a few key details about his life. It turns out that he is not only the scion of one of the country’s wealthiest families but also one of its most sought-after bachelors. Being on Nick’s arm puts a target on Rachel’s back, with jealous socialites and, worse, Nick’s own disapproving mother (Michelle Yeoh) taking aim. And it soon becomes clear that while money can’t buy love, it can definitely complicate things.​”


Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

Plus One

The male lead, Jack Quaid, is Meg Ryan’s son so that is why he looks familiar. He has her charisma and I think her eyes. The female lead, Maya Erskine, is from PEN15 and I would defend her with my life. She is so funny and bright and talented, I can’t wait to see what she does next. What’s the movie about? Ben and Alice, longtime friends, agree to be each other’s plus one for the endless number of weddings they have been invited to. Wackiness and romance ensues.


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The Princess Bride

There is nothing I can say about this movie that hasn’t been said before or better. It is a fairy tale. It is a comedy. Anybody want a peanut? Here is Roger Ebert’s review from 1987, when the film was released. “It is filled with good-hearted fun, with performances by actors who seem to be smacking their lips and by a certain true innocence that survives all of Reiner’s satire. And, also, it does have kissing in it.” -Roger Ebert


Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

Leap Year

Anna (Amy Adams) travels to Ireland to propose to her boyfriend on Leap Day. Apparently there’s an Irish tradition, Bachelor’s Day, that a man who is proposed to on Leap Day must accept the proposal. Thank God there is not one of those for women, well, except the sport stadium proposal. You have to say yes to that or be treated like a Red Sox fan anywhere but Boston. But she ends up far from Dublin, where her super successful surgeon boyfriend is. And there is Declan (Matthew Goode). Now, I would have just moved into the bar where Declan worked and watched him for the rest of my natural life but I am creepy. Wackiness ensues. Declan is a jerk but he’s handsome and Irish so what in the hell does anyone expect?

Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

Friends With Benefits

Adorable comedy starring Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis. They are beautiful, talented and charming. You can not go wrong with this little gem.


Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind

This is a better movie than the synopsis makes it sound. I generally avoid Jim Carrey movies because he exhausts me but in this I am charmed by his character. Kate Winslet is as always a delight. “Jim Carrey stars as Joel Barish, a man who is informed that his ex-girlfriend Clementine (Kate Winslet) has had her memories of their relationship erased from her brain via an experimental procedure. Not to be outdone, Joel decides to have the same procedure done to himself. As bumbling underlings Stan (Mark Ruffalo) and Patrick (Elijah Wood) perform the operation on Joel — over the course of an evening, in his apartment — Joel struggles in his own mind to save the memories of Clementine from being deleted. Kirsten Dunst, David Cross, and Jane Adams also star.” ~ Matthew Tobey


Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

Out of Sight

Okay, this movie has it all. Steven Soderbergh directing, Jennifer Lopez and George Clooney starring and the line that is famous in my family, “What do you need a hatchet for?” Here’s a useful synopsis from Bhob Stewart, “Steven Soderbergh directed this crime caper adapted from the novel by Elmore Leonard. When ex-con Jack Foley (George Clooney) robs a bank, his car goes dead, and Foley lands in a Florida prison. His escape from prison doesn’t go as planned, since it’s witnessed by deputy federal marshal Karen Sisco (Jennifer Lopez). Foley’s pal Buddy Bragg (Ving Rhames) intervenes, with the result that Sisco winds up in the trunk of the getaway car with Foley, and the two realize they’re attracted to each other, despite being on opposite sides of the law. However, that doesn’t stop Sisco from her mission to capture Foley.”


Romantic Movies Where No One Ends Up Dead

sex, lies, and videotape

Another Soderbergh film, “Sex, Lies, and Videotape” was made in 1989, hence the videotape. It is a quiet film and can be slow but I think it’s one of Soderbergh’s finest. There’s a lot of talking about sex and depictions of sex so be advised. James Spader is absolutely beautiful. Andie MacDowell in one of her best performances.

A note on the film from Roger Ebert’s review: The story of “sex, lies, and videotape” is by now part of movie folklore: how writer-director Steven Soderbergh, at 29, wrote the screenplay in eight days during a trip to Los Angeles, how the film was made for $1.8 million, how it won the Palme d’Or at this year’s Cannes Film Festival, as well as the best actor prize for Spader. I am not sure it is as good as the Cannes jury apparently found it; it has more intelligence than heart, and is more clever than enlightening. But it is never boring, and there are moments when it reminds us of how sexy the movies used to be, back in the days when speech was an erogenous zone.

mothering in the time of covid-19

Mothering in the Time of COVID-19

With the deep concern currently circling the COVID-19 pandemic, we thought we would talk about it. Being a health care provider and a new mother definitely has me feeling conflicted. On one end of the spectrum, my health care side is telling me to relax, continue to wash your hands (something I constantly preached way before any of this came about!), and to remain cautious yet calm. After all, I have seen a lot of sickness, trauma, and chronic health issues in my career. Then I have the mom side of me, wanting to disinfect everything, stay away from all the people, and look deeper into the issue. Welcome to mothering in the time of COVID-19.

It is easy to start to panic if you’ve been watching any type of media. It’s all the news is talking about. It’s all over social media with highlights about celebrities and major athletes testing positive, cancellations of any major or minor gatherings, and travel restrictions. While it’s great that we’re taking things so seriously, frankly, it’s scaring the crap out of everyone. The grocery stores are empty, pictures of shelves completely bare, even Amazon is out of stock. I saw a 12-roll pack of toilet paper being sold on Amazon for $78! 

I have so many questions swirling around in my head. What is the right way to go about doing things? Stay inside and ride it out until this all passes? Continue living your life in hopes that the people around you are healthy? I think the fear of the unknown is the scariest part. As a health care provider I want to see statistics, facts, and what’s happening in the other cases. As a mom I want to frantically Google everything I can to see how to best avoid this for my family. Keeping my daughter safe is my number one goal, but with a husband also in the healthcare field, keeping him safe is also important. He’s out there every day caring for people, sick or not, and doing his part for the health of others. Selflessly risking his health for others. All the health care workers are, and I hope everyone is thinking about them.

The moral of my story is this is a scary time. I know we will get through this, and hopefully fairly quickly. I tell myself to remain calm, do what you can to keep your immune system up, sanitize, wash your hands, stay away from crowds, etc. As a new mom, part of me totally understands the panic people are feeling. You just want to protect your babies, no matter what that takes. I too am feeling that panic inside of preparing for the “what if ” situations.

Just know that no matter where you are in this, whether you think it’s all ridiculous and are living your life per usual, or you are prepared to sit at home for the next month with your 10 packs of toilet paper, you aren’t alone. We’re all in this together, and we will get through this!

movie series social distancing

5 Movie Series to Watch While Social Distancing

Here are 5 movie series (and a couple of lists of movie series) to watch while practicing social distancing. Once this is over, I think we are all going to realize that we don’t hate each other as much as we thought we did. We might very well become lonely for each other. Who knows, stranger things have happened. After 8 years of drought here in Southern California, I don’t know anyone who complains when it rains. Before the drought, the entire region lost their minds when it rained and now everyone smiles and points at the sky and happily chirps, “It’s raining!”

Well, I’ve stress shopped and stocked my house. I did not overbuy toilet paper but I do have 3 dozen eggs. We all have our weaknesses. Six is out of school for three weeks and I am trying to get Older Son to come home but thus far to no avail. I do want Older Son home but what I really want is his dog, Barbara. Barbara will let me cuddle and coo and fuss and fidget over him whereas my kids won’t.

In lieu of Barbara the Dog, I have turned to TV, movies and books. And it occurred to me that there are people who have been living full, productive lives and might not have a list of books, TV and movies they want to watch. So I thought I’d make some lists and share them. Let’s start with movies in a series.

Harry Potter- Did the last book need to be split into two movies, especially considering so much of it was magical camping? Decide for yourself. Also, you’ll never get the theme song out of your head. Don’t forget the prequels. I liked the first Fantastic Beasts movie but the second one was downright confusing. And if you’re feeling it, reread all the books!

Hunger Games- Okay, so dystopian fiction might not be the best thing for your mental health right now, so think carefully before indulging. These are solid movies with solid performances and I couldn’t leave them out. Not up to watching the story? Maybe think about reading or rereading the books? There’s a new one coming out in May so might be time to brush up.


Star Wars- Good lord, where to begin? I have no idea. I watched the three prequels and I still can’t figure out why but that is entirely up to you. There are so many movies and TV shows and LEGO video games (which I highly recommend) that I will link to a webpage where people who know more about this than me make suggestions on how to consume all of this.

Pirates of the Caribbean-There are more of these movies than I realized. I think I stopped at the third one? Who knows. These movies are some slickly produced mind candy and that is what we are after here. The first movie is still a delight to watch.


Marvel Universe- Where to begin? I have no idea. So I asked the internet and there were as many opinions as there are movies so here is the one that seemed the least hysterical about the idea of watching them in the wrong order. Does this universe include the Xmen? Is that how you write Xmen? Does is matter? DeadPool is horribly, horribly violent. Is that in this series? I’m obviously lost.

Best Movie Series- If none of those caught your fancy for movie series to watch while social distancing, IMDb has a list as does Ranker  and here is just a list of every Disney movie ever made. 

Good luck and let me know what you decided on.


Why Am I So Angry?

Why Am I So Angry?

It’s time to start talking about anger. Healthy anger motivates, makes waves and instigates change. But there is some anger that just builds, layer on layer, until it fills us up and comes pouring out. Why am I always so angry? Nothing goes quickly in life. No. Thing. Not traffic. Not doctor’s appointments. Not any transaction at any retail establishment anywhere ever. My food order is usually wrong. My jeans don’t fit my thick middle. Nothing about my daily frustrations are new. Same shit different day. So why am I still so angry about it? Read more

Alone on Thanksgiving

Alone on Thanksgiving

I am divorced. Sort of. I am in divorce limbo. Part of my new divorce limbo life is being alone on days of the year when it used to be guaranteed I would be with my spouse as well as my kids. My birthday. Easter. Thanksgiving. This year, I will be alone on Thanksgiving. Read more

Family Portraits

Family Portraits

You know how people have framed, posed family portraits on their living room walls? I have never had one of those, not with my family of origin or with my married family or with me and Six and Older Son. 

These portraits fascinate me. I try not to stare rudely at them when I see them. There is a difference between making a polite comment regarding the image of another person’s gene pool and staring at the image like an investigator studying some wing-nut’s murder board. 

How do people manage this herculean task?  Read more



My god I hate facetime.

That is all.

Frozen Food From Trader Joe's

Frozen Food From Trader Joe’s

Ever peer into the frozen food case at all those boxes of food and think, “I wonder if that is any good?” And then you keep going because it’s expensive or you feel guilty? I do it all the time at Trader Joe’s but no more! To go along with making a bunch of box mix bakery goods, I am going to pick up, heat up and consume all the frozen foods I have been eyeing from the frozen food section at Trader Joe’s. Read more



According to Mandy of MediaMandy, YouTube is the 3rd largest search engine on the interweb. That’s amazing to me. I normally use YouTube to watch SNL skits. Or, when I am too sick to do much else, I fall down YouTube rabbit holes. It begins innocently enough, searching for uplifting TED talks and then three hours later I am watching some guy in Nova Scotia blowing up random shit in his driveway.   Read more

Blondies Box Mix

Blondies Box Mix

I’ve had a BRILLIANT idea. I was at Trader Joe’s buying ingredients to make a cake from scratch for the recipe challenge and I saw, below where I was trying to figure out if I could use agave syrup instead of corn syrup, three shelves of box mixes. There were scones and cakes and quick breads. I shoved the ingredients for the cake back onto the shelf and picked out 7 box mixes I thought I would enjoy making and then eating. When I am done making all the box mixes I will decide which ones were good and which ones were meh and then I will pick a winner! Let’s begin with blondies box mix. Read more