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Back to the Beginning of RuPual's Drag Race

Back to the Beginning of RuPaul’s Drag Race

Okay. Deep breath. There have been 11 seasons of RuPaul’s Drag Race. On August 19th of this year it was announced that there will be a 12th season. Many marriages don’t last as long as this show. And do you know why? Because most people do not work as hard on their marriages as RuPaul works on this show. So, in honor of RuPaul’s work and Older Son’s and my dear friend Cynthia’s love of this show, I am going back to the beginning of RuPaul’s Drag Race. I will either rewatch or watch for the first time all 11 seasons. 

I am not committing to All Stars. There are 5 seasons of that show. That’s 16 seasons. I am only one person and I do need to do other things. If I end a gibbering idiot at the end of this, so be it. Join me as I go back to the beginning of RuPaul’s Drag Race.

You gotta work.

From an excellent article by  

Since “Drag Race” first aired in 2009, the conversation around identity and gender has shifted tremendously. For all the show has done to challenge its audience’s notions of masculinity and femininity, it has shied away, until the most recent season, from any serious discussion about the ways the drag community intersects the trans one. There have been trans queens on the show, but the topic is a touchy one in the drag community. For most drag artists, the point is the performance; it is not their sole identity. But for those queens who identify as trans or nonbinary, their stage persona is not necessarily a performance. The centerpiece of the show is the contestants’ transforming themselves into queens, and then, after each competition, taking off their wigs and removing synthetic breasts to reappear as men. For years, “Drag Race” prioritized entertainment over any nuances of the culture. Much of the queens’ vernacular, body language and movements come from the drag world’s — especially white queens’ — interpretation of black femininity. I’ve always been uncomfortable with that phenomenon, despite how much I enjoy the show. In his essay “ ‘Draguating’ to Normal,” the academic Josh Morrison argues that by using the bodies of women, people of color and other marginalized groups, “through an often loving, well-intentioned impersonation of them,” drag “unintentionally does them discursive violence.”

Wine Country

Wine Country

Wine Country on Netflix is a movie about how women grow up together and in the process sort of grow into each other. No one is perfect. We’re all irritating and irritated. We overreact to things that don’t matter and underreact to things that are majorly important. But when we figure out what we’ve done, and if we are lucky, our friends will be there to help us figure out how to reset out trajectories and get ourselves set on new, hopefully better paths. Read more

Tina Fey

Older son once wrote on his Instagram profile, “I’m not real sure what goes here but Tina Fey, if you are reading this, I love you.” And I couldn’t have agreed with him more. Read more


Please God, let this woman live forever.


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All the Moms

Dear All the Moms,

We see you working. Wherever you are, whatever you are doing, we know you are doing your best.  Read more

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Alice Bowman

What do you do if your spacecraft is 10 days away from Pluto and reboots itself, dumping all the computer code needed to perform the experiments scientists have spent the past ten years crafting?If you are lucky, you call Alice Bowman, Mission Operations Manager for the New Horizons mission to Pluto, and in three days she and her team put humpty-dumpty back together again. Read more

Nina Simone

Nina Simone

If you think you have never heard the Nina Simone version of ‘Sinnerman’ then listen here and you will probably say, “Oh, I have heard this in tons of movies and TV shows.” And then you will probably listen to the entire song because it is beautiful.

Go ahead, I’ll wait. Read more

Kyrsten Sinema

The Honorable Richard E. Neal

We are breaking with our custom of featuring female talent crushes because this guy just asked the IRS to cough up Trump’s tax returns. Onward Honorable Politician I had never heard of until last week!

We have included a link to the letter, just in case you wanted to read what the legal version of “no matter how long it takes, we will get the truth out of you even if it’s the last thing we ever do” looks like.

Tiffany Haddish

Tiffany Haddish

The first time I ever heard of Tiffany Haddish I was “borrowing” someone else’s Showtime and I saw her comedy special.

Mesmerizing. Was she funny? Yes. She was also wholly present, inhabiting every square inch of her body. Haddish has so much charisma it shimmers off of her and lights up everything around her. Read more

Marie Kondo

Marie Kondo

Marie Kondo is our Talent Crush. I can practically hear you rolling your eyes. Stop it and keep reading. Since Netflix scheduled one of the most brilliant release dates for a TV show in the history of TV by debuting Tidying Up on New Year’s Day, people all over the world have been cuddling their sweatshirts close to their chests and whispering to themselves, “Does this Fred Flintstone hoodie bring me joy?”

In case you aren’t sure, the answer is a blanket and resounding ‘no.’ Get rid of it, it’s stupid. Read more