Taking care of people is hard. It can be deeply rewarding, but let’s face it, it’s also really, really hard. Whether it’s children, elderly parents, sick spouses, special needs family members, or even ourselves, taking care of human beings requires a tremendous amount of energy. And yet for mothers and other caregivers, we do it every, single day, often with little recognition or appreciation.
I have three children, a dog and a husband who works ridiculous hours, pretty straightforward stuff. I’ve been fortunate to have the choice to stay home with my kids. I often wonder if it was the right choice, but that’s a conversation for another day. The point is, that even with all of the privilege in my life, caring for my family is difficult and unrelenting.
One of the things that has kept me sane(ish), is the support I get from my incredible friends. Aileen and I text each other, A LOT. We share stories of the neverending piles of laundry and the demoralizing stack of dishes in the sink. This support makes our lives better. Not easier, but more fun and less lonely.
When we started Persistiny, one of the things we wanted to do was provide a community where women got more support for this vital work. As many of you know, we’re working on a mobile app, Tend, that will be an amazing source of recognition and encouragement. In the meantime, we wanted to give women a chance to share in the fun, loving, emotional, silly support that we give one another.
So, to celebrate International Women’s Day, we’re launching a Facebook group – Tending the Home Fires. We’ll share our own shit shows here and encourage you to do the same. Watch the stories for the “best of” text interchanges between us and we’ll post content here that might be encouraging or helpful to other caregivers.
The group is closed and moderated to provide a place where we can be safe and vulnerable. Please make sure to read the group rules before posting or commenting. We can’t wait to share the love with you all – please join us.