My husband and I have been home together with the baby for a little over 2 months. We haven’t gone anywhere with the exception of my husband having gone out a few times to run to the grocery store. Other than that, we have been together 24/7. At first we were stressed out, annoyed with each other at little things, and seemed on edge. I’m sure it was the fear of the unknown and panic of what was to come. It was a ROUGH adjustment.
As the days went on, we started to find a new normal, create a schedule and really communicate. My husband has always been a very caring, patient person who would do anything for me, but this time has made me look at things differently.
Prior to having our child, I did most of the cleaning and he did most of the cooking, and we split things like laundry and taking care of the dogs. After having a baby, and with our careers, I did more of the cleaning and taking care of the baby because I was home more. However, during this time my husband has asked every day what I need from him, what I need to get accomplished that day for myself, my work, etc.
We started tracking our work in the Tend app and comparing our stats. I must admit, he was doing more housework and caring for the baby, while giving me extra time to work on my business. What a partner to have! I always knew he was very supportive, but being thrown into a completely different life, and being forced in our homes, changed my outlook. I felt almost bad for “falling short” of what I was doing before COVID-19 fell upon us. However, I haven’t been doing less, I am doing so much more for me. Ultimately, having that time to grow, learn and thrive has made me a better mom and spouse as well. I’ve learned that we still make a great team, and even though our schedules and careers look very different, we will get through this stronger than ever!
As unfortunate as this time has been for the world, I have found some joy. I am extremely grateful for my family and the extra time we have received to slow down and truly soak in the moments and memories. My husband and I have been so deep in our work and careers for years, and then after a baby our time together really started to dwindle. This time at home has made me appreciate my little family more than ever, and appreciate my supportive husband. I feel like we’ve all learned some lessons in the extra time we’ve had to think, and mine is that taking time for myself isn’t selfish, and that allowing someone to help me doesn’t mean that I am failing, but that I have someone that wants to support me and our family. And for that, I am truly grateful.